Reconciliation Takes Two
Conflict between people, communities, nations – we are familiar with all of these. We have seen them play out throughout our lives. Sometimes the conflicts are over minor things: who cleaned out the dishwasher last might be the focus of a battle in a family kitchen. Other times they are definitely major issues: who has the right to control access to the resources of an individual or nation, for example.
The way we handle these conflicts, great and small, will largely determine how likely we are to reach a mutually satisfactory resolution. When solutions are imposed top-down from a powerful authority or country, against the will and to the detriment of those on whom they have been imposed, the less powerful will not be happy with the outcome. They will not accept those solutions and they will find ways large and small to resist. On the other hand, when the solution is reached through communication, mutual respect, and a good faith desire to resolve a problem, both sides will be committed to making it work. Both sides will have to sacrifice something and both sides will get something that really works well to address the challenge they have together faced.
As we look at the relationship between God and humans, we might expect a dynamic similar to the first scenario to play out. God makes a demand. Humans try and fail to comply. God punishes. Humans repent. God relents and again blesses the humans. Humans try and fail again. “Lather, rinse, repeat!” Sometimes in reading Scripture and looking at the history of the relationship between God and humans, we get the impression that this is all there is to it. Some might even take that perception and decide they don’t need that kind of vengeful, unforgiving deity and turn away from faith at all.
The understanding of the picture changes dramatically when we realize that the relationship is not equal, but that reconciliation between God and humans is really God’s preferred option. In fact, God is always coming into the conversation with compassion and readiness to work together for the good of all. We may not realize this, however, because we are used to the human way of holding onto past disappointments and hurts and allowing them to color our futures.
Reconciliation does not require two equals in a relationship. It does require at least one who is compassionate and willing to go however far it takes in humility to reach the heart of the other.
When the Hebrew people left Egypt, they traveled around the Sinai Peninsula and the lands east of the Jordan River for forty years. An entire generation passed before they entered the Promised Land, the land west of the Jordan from which Jacob and his sons had traveled to Egypt so many, many years earlier. It’s an amazing story, well worth reading, about how the waters of the Jordan River parted and allowed the people to cross into the new land. The experience reminded the people of the crossing of the Red Sea as their parents and grandparents left Egypt and gained their freedom.
When they arrived in this new land, the people renewed their covenant with the Lord. One of the signs of the Covenant was that men (and boys) were circumcised. They were dedicated to the Lord through this action. It represented a cutting away of impurity and the intent to dedicate the life of this person to the Lord. This practice was set at the beginning of the Lord’s relationship with Abram (whose name came to be Abraham). In Egypt and in the desert, the practice had not been continued, but here as they entered their new land, it was re-established. All men and boys were circumcised as a sign of their acceptance of the covenant.
Once the Covenant had been renewed in this physical way, it was also renewed symbolically and spiritually with the celebration of the Passover. While they were traveling in the desert, celebration of this foundational event was impossible. Now that they were in their new land, it was the first order of business. The Lord had brought them out of Egypt and to a new land. A renewal of the Covenant included remembering the blessings they had received, the freedom they had gained, the new hopes and possibilities for the future. As men and women have remarked for centuries following that time, “Our ancestors crossed the Red Sea and our feet are wet!” This time of reconciliation and rebirth of a people in relationship with the Most High was brought about by the Lord, in response to the pleas of those who were in bondage. (Jos 5:9a, 10-12)
Two parties – one common goal – Reconciliation.
So, does this mean that all was well between God and humans from that day on? Of course not. But did God abandon the relationship? Of course not!
Jesus told a story to his followers about the love of a father. We generally call it the Parable of the Prodigal Son, but really, it’s a story of a father’s tender love.
A father had two sons. One of them, the younger one, wanted to live life to the full, to enjoy a busy social life, travel, see the world, and never have to worry about how to pay for these adventures. So, he asked his father to give him the share of the family wealth that would typically not be his until after his father’s death. This was an extraordinarily bold and genuinely foolish thing to do. Children have been disinherited for less. However, his father loved him and agreed to the splitting of the property. The younger son took off happily to enjoy his life.
The older son stayed on the family farm. He helped with the work of caring for animals and raising the crops to feed them and support the household. He was a model son and his father loved him too.
The younger son, as might be expected, blew through the money quickly. He had to find work. He expected that would be easy, but it wasn’t. Times were hard. Jobs were scarce. Eventually, he ended up taking care of pigs in a foreign country and wishing someone would offer him some of the food that was going to feed the pigs. (Pigs were considered to be “unclean,” ritually impure, and to be avoided in his culture. A huge “Ick!”)
Jesus told his listeners that the young man realized he would be better off as a servant on his father’s farm than where he had ended up on his own and decided to return home. The young man was prepared to beg his father’s forgiveness and ask for a job doing whatever was needed. He had no expectation of ever being welcomed back into the life of the family as more than a servant.
But the father was prodigal in his love. He gave freely of the abundance of that love, watching all the time for the possibility of his son returning. When he saw the boy coming down the road from far away, this father ran down the road to meet his son. He didn’t let the boy get his words of apology and submission out before he embraced him and started pulling him along the road, back to their home.
A great celebration occurred that night, with feasting and sharing joy with family and friends. A new beginning for the lost son, welcomed by his father.
The other son was not so happy. He was angry and resentful. After all, he had worked for years and it seemed no one appreciated his loyal service. He was not able to see any reason for his father to welcome this ungrateful, selfish brother of his.
Jesus tells us the father was saddened by the older son’s reaction. “My son, you are here with me always; everything I have is yours. But now we must celebrate and rejoice, because your brother was dead and has come to life again, he was lost and has been found.” (Lk 15:1-3, 11-32)
The reconciliation between father and son required two people, but one held all the power to welcome and forgive the other in the encounter. The love and forgiveness had to be given freely to repair the relationship, and so they were.
The early followers of Jesus recognized his passion, death, and resurrection as the way God reconciled all of humanity with himself and welcomed us all back into the family home. God became one of us, in Jesus, and lived a fully human life. This wasn’t a case of a charade in which someone pretends to be someone they aren’t. Jesus was as truly human as any other human being. He remains human, even after his resurrection. He is a brother to all of us. And yet, the community came to understand that his coming as the Christ opened the door to reconciliation with our common Father.
St. Paul spoke often of this mystery of reconciliation with the Father through the life and death of Jesus. “Whoever is in Christ is a new creation… All of this is from God, who has reconciled us to himself through Christ and given us the ministry of reconciliation…” The Father is counting on us to pass on this message, the good news of reconciliation. (2 Cor 5:17-21)
We are not the ones who have to take the first step. The first step, the second step, the ultimate step, all have been taken by our loving Father. He became one of us so that he could totally understand what it is to be human and transform us, breaking down the barriers that divide human from divine, offering himself totally so we can share in His life, the life of Love.
In our very divided world and lives today, how do we respond to such an outreach? How do we respond to unconditional love? How do we reach out to share that news of reconciliation through our own lives?
Are we willing and ready to listen to the hopes, the dreams, the fears, the concerns, the pain and the joy of others? How do we deal with divisions in our own families? How do we protect those who will be hurt unjustly by policy changes that overturn the rules by which they have lived? Will we offer a gentle response to those whose words are insulting or hurtful? If someone makes an honest mistake, will we be willing to give them a second chance to correct it? Will we continue to serve the vulnerable and those who seek protection and safety among us? Will we be true to our calling to welcome all and share with those needing help? Will we be willing and ready to continue doing this at the same time that we work towards reconciliation with those who do not support our actions?
Today let us pray that just as the Father has run out to meet us on the road as we return from our forays into the world of self-serving activities and neglect of others, we may accept and forgive and welcome back those who ask us for forgiveness. May we use this season of Lent mindfully, to look at our own lives and see what areas might need forgiveness or more time to grow and heal. And then reach out in loving service to those in our communities, family, and world who need to know they are loved unconditionally.
Readings for the Fourth Sunday of Lent – Cycle C
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